The Sessions, based on a true story, is a sweet, beautifully acted,
life-affirming and surprisingly entertaining motion picture about a severely disabled
man and his first sexual experience. This may not sound like a particularly attractive premise
for a movie, but read a little further, will you?
The man in
question is Mark O’Brien, a poet and
journalist. O’Brien, born in 1949 (one
day after yours truly), contracted polio when he was six, suffering severe
nerve damage as a result, and spent the rest of his life a quadriplegic. His disability was not limited to just limb
movement: he was forced to spend most of his existence in an iron lung, a
tubular contraption that adjusted the air pressure around O’Brien’s body every
three seconds to facilitate breathing. Nevertheless, through pluck and force of
will, O’Brien put himself through U.C Berkeley, and eventually established
himself as a writer.
Although life was a daily struggle, O’Brien’s caustic yet
charming, self-deprecating humor, his candor and his active, inquisitive mind
won him friends and supporters. But there was a terrible hole in his life –no
physical intimacy, no sex, no romance. As he approached his late thirties, this
lacuna preyed on his mind. He felt less than human, incomplete. O’Brien’s
striving for such an experience, for self-esteem and for his humanity is the
core of The Sessions.
All of this could make for a pretty somber, or at the least
a very demanding picture. But while the depiction is both touching and
thought-provoking, the tone of
The Sessions is light, humorous even. The
main part of the story is taken from O’Brien’s 1990 autobiographical article “
On
Seeing A Sex Surrogate,” which is, in fact, how he determined to try and
deal with his problem.

John Hawkes, as Mark O’Brien, is a wonder in a very
demanding role, balancing a realistic physical portrayal of this seriously
disabled man with a nuanced rendering of his sardonic self-referential, almost
Woody Allen-ish manner, along with O’Brien’s emotional vulnerability, his poetic
outlook, his hope, his fears, and his glowing humanity. The only previous
performances by Hawkes that I recall are his vivid portrayals of gaunt, creepy guys
in
Winter’s Bone (2010)(meth-dealing Uncle Teardrop) and
Martha,
Marcy, May, Marlene (2011)(abusive, criminal cult leader); but here, his
portrayal of this gentle, soulful poet is totally convincing.

Helen Hunt is equally outstanding in a very different but
equally demanding role as Cheryl, the
surrogate/therapist who introduces this
38 year old man to physical intimacy and sex - something he has never
experienced, and about which he harbors much curiosity and anxiety. Cheryl’s
work with Mark is the core of this story, of course. Hunt is required to
perform in the altogether for a good portion of the film, and she manages to do
so frankly and unselfconsciously. Given the subject matter, you might think
this would come off as tawdry or bizarre, but not at all. In fact, just as her
character must put Mark at ease in a fraught and awkward situation, so too are
we put at ease, as her sessions with Mark seem perfectly natural. At 50, Hunt
looks damn good, but there nothing lascivious or prurient here; just a
sparkling performance.
The developing relationship between Cheryl and Mark is
wonderful - and instructive. How important is intimacy? Early on, when Cheryl
runs her fingers through Mark's hair, commenting on how beautiful it is, Mark
is reduced to tears. No one has ever told him he was beautiful, no one has
offered him such an intimate gesture before.

In a key supporting role, William H. Macy shines as Father
Brendan, Mark O'Brien's confessor and friend. When O'Brien confides in his
priest about the possibility of engaging a surrogate, opens up about his intellectual
and emotional yearnings and deep-seated apprehensions, and asks Brendan for his
opinion, "as a friend", whether engaging in sex under these
circumstances would be a sin in the eyes of God, Macy beautifully reveals
Brendan's own moral and religious dilemma as he struggles to answer. Father
Brendan is far from a strict constructionist (this is, after all, mid-1980’s
Berkeley), but we are, he notes, talking about fornication - and, given that
money is involved, how is this different from prostitution? Compassion and
humanism prevail: "I think He will give you a pass on this," he
eventually responds. Macy's physiognomy has rarely been put to better use.
The supporting cast is excellent as well, particularly Moon
Bloodgood, as one of O’Brien’s
attendants,
and Adam Arkin as Cheryl’s husband.
Writer/Director Ben Lewin conveys O’Brien’s circumstances
with sympathy but without a hint of condescension. The tone of the picture hovers between wry
humor and compassionate story-telling, in appropriate proportions. O’Brien’s
point of view, as delivered by Hawkes in dialogue and occasional voice-over, is
pitch perfect – much of it excerpted from O’Brien’s own writings.
But despite the light touch, this is not a cotton candy
biography. O’Brien’s anguish, isolation, anger and loneliness all come through,
side-by-side with his acute perception, sense of humor, humanity and poetic
sensibility. More than anything, O’Brien wanted love and companionship – just
like the rest of us. It was just much,
much harder for him – in his iron lung – to achieve this. Eventually he
succeeded.
I felt both uplifted and appreciatively sad at the poignant conclusion
of this movie.
Check it out.
Available on DVD/Bluray via Netflix or Redbox;
Also worthwhile is the short (36 minutes) documentary: Breathing
Lessons: The Life and Work of Mark O’Brien, winner of the 1997 Academy
Award for Best Documentary – Short Subject, available from Amazon Instant Video
(but see The Sessions first).
A few relevant (and lovely) poems by Mark O’Brien:
Love
Poem to No-One in Particular
[featured prominently in The
Sessions]
Let me touch you with my words
for my hands lie limp as empty gloves
let my words stroke your hair
slide down your back
and tickle your belly
for my hands, light and free flying as
bricks
ignore my wishes and stubbornly refuse
to carry out my quietest desires
let my words enter your mind
bearing torches
admit them willingly into your being
so they may caress you gently
within